10 Productivity Hacks for Memoir Writers

Writing your memoir can be a rewarding journey of self-discovery, a way to preserve your legacy, and a gift for generations to come. But let’s face it, the process can sometimes feel overwhelming. How do you capture a lifetime of experiences on paper? How do you stay motivated and productive?

Fear not! I’ve been there, coaching and guiding many memoir and family history writers. I’m here to share ten productivity hacks that may help you transform your memoir writing process.

1. Set the Scene for Success: Before you even pen down the first word, create a writing environment that inspires you. Is it a quiet room with a view, surrounded by photos from your past, or perhaps a bustling café and music that stirs your creative juices? Find that sweet spot where your thoughts flow freely.

2. Break It Down: Looking at your life as one giant narrative can be daunting. Break it into chapters or themes: childhood, education, career, love, and adventures. Doesn’t that feel more manageable? Tip: Organizing your materials can provide the creative structural boost you need. Set up a file folder system, both physical and on your computer.

3. The Power of Routine: Establish a writing routine that fits into your life. Whether it’s an hour each morning when the house is still quiet or a dedicated evening session, consistency is key. Make a date with yourself and keep it! What time of day do your words flow best?

4. Embrace the Digital Age: Use technology to your advantage. Voice-to-text software can be a game-changer, especially for those stories that are easier to tell aloud. Tip: Use the recorder app on your phone and “talk story” to yourself to grab those memories that pop up. You can transcribe it later. Digital journals and apps are designed to keep your thoughts organized.

5. Memory Triggers: Ever notice how a particular scent or song can transport you back in time? Use these memory triggers to your advantage. Be intentional about this. Play music from the era you’re writing about, or surround yourself with memorabilia from that time in your life. You can often find this in your memoir box collection (I mention this in my book:

Tell Your Life Story: 10 Tips and Techniques to Share Your Story

6. Set Micro-Goals: Writing a memoir is a marathon, not a sprint. Set small, achievable goals to keep yourself motivated. Maybe it’s writing a certain number of words each day or completing a chapter each month. Celebrate these milestones! Tip: Plan for the week, list commitments, and note time gaps (as the Brits say, “Mind the Gap!”) where you can fit in a bit of writing, and make appointments with yourself.

7. Join a Writing Group or a “Work Together Alone” Type Group: Sometimes, the journey is more enjoyable with companions. Joining a writing group can provide you with the support, motivation, and feedback you need. Sharing your progress and challenges with peers can be incredibly encouraging. If you prefer to keep your work private, these groups can still provide great benefits in their accountability factor.

Note: I host a Celebrate Storytelling Journaling Circle, which meets online once a week for 50 minutes. We write to personal history-related prompts and enjoy making progress together. Email me here to join: kray@rememberingthetime.net

8. The First Draft is Just That: Don’t get bogged down by perfectionism. Get that first draft of your story out of your heart and head. You’re the only one that knows it! Let those words pour out onto the page or into your voice recorder, no editing. Editing comes later.

9. Seek Inspiration: Whenever you hit a wall, seek inspiration.  Read other memoirs, listen to podcasts about storytelling, or watch documentaries. Sometimes, a break to refill your creative bank is exactly what you need. Tip: Active rest and relaxation can provide a powerful boost to your writing practice. There’s something about movement, like a brisk walk through a beautiful location or enjoying a hobby that gets you up and going, that can help jumpstart your creativity. Sun and fresh air are terrific mental boosters.

10. Take Advantage of Idle Time: Waiting for an appointment? Picking a child up from school? Maybe your pony is in the stable waiting for an oil change? Use time snippets to chunk away at your writing. These microbursts also fuel your creative momentum, as each is a quick win that feels great. 15 minutes here and there add up to a lot of additional words and memories for your story.

Bonus Tip: Remember Your ‘Why’: On those days when motivation wanes, remind yourself why you started this journey. Is it to leave a legacy, heal from your past, or share your adventures? Your purpose can be a powerful motivator to keep you moving forward.

Talk to yourself like the successful writer you want to be. Embarking on the memoir-writing journey is a brave and beautiful endeavor. It’s about more than just documenting events; it’s about sharing the essence of your life’s journey, the lessons learned, and the wisdom gained.

With these productivity hacks, you’re giving yourself the gift of time, not just to write your memoir; you’re embarking on a journey of self-discovery and legacy-building. So, grab your pen (or laptop) and let’s make history–your history.

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I Am From–Guest Post by Ben Cooper

Here at Remembering the Time, I hear wonderful stories and love to showcase a variety of writers sharing their personal history work. This guest post is from multi-book author Ben Cooper. He is a husband, father, Christian author, beekeeper, and friend to everyone he meets. He was raised on a family farm and earned a degree in Agricultural Science from Penn State University. He retired after working 32 years for the Maryland Department of Agriculture to spend more time writing, speaking, teaching, and beekeeping. Come along with Ben on a journey down memory lane in his prose poem memoir. (Photo credit Ben Cooper Fombell General Store)

I Am From – Ben Cooper

I am from penny candy, red licorice fish, counted out by hand at the General Store that carried everything, so I thought.

I am from a multi-generational family farm:
from a two-mile stretch of pavement that dissected cropland, pastures, woods, yards, and streams;
from the rural life where cattle outnumbered people;
from a place where neighbors would stop and talk or lend a hand;
from a much slower time and place.

I am from a well-trodden path directing me from home to the farm and beyond:
from Tonka trucks and pedal tractors to a bicycle with a banana seat and my
first car (a 1972 Plymouth Valiant);
from a wooden bench swing hung each year from the limb of a maple tree,
from black and white television with rabbit ears;
from collecting Mallow Cup points and anxiously waiting for them to come
in the hot summer as they melted along their journey to our mailbox;
from returnable glass soda bottles and redeemable green stamps.

I am from rows of sweet corn planted, hoed and grown for 4-H:
from selling it by the roadside and giving an extra ear for every dozen sold,
(baker’s dozen);
from proudly showing it at the local fair in hopes of a blue ribbon.

I am from oversized work shoes bought for my ever-growing feet during the last week of school to protect them on the farm,
from being told to take care of them because they had to last a whole year.

I am from large family gatherings at holidays:
from sitting at the kids’ table until I had kids of my own to take my place;
from seeing out-of-state plates on cars in the driveway nearly every weekend.

I am from watchful eyes as a dozer shapes a twelve-foot-deep pond in a pasture field that would serve as a place to swim, fish, ice skate, and enjoy for years;
from learning those same skills to survey and design farm ponds in another
place, so that the same benefits would carry on to a new generation.

I am from Penn State University:
a chance to experience more than I ever expected;
a place that broadened my scope of education and shaped my vocation;
a taste of the vastness of the world our awesome God created.

I am from stewardship:
from being taught how to care for people, land, and animals by my father,
grandfather and great-grandfather;
from strength, hard work, and tender compassion for all living things.

I am from Adam:
knowing at twelve, I needed to be saved by faith in Jesus Christ;
from answering the call to serve Him here, in the Caribbean, and Pakistan;
from Jumonville, an annual glimpse of heaven with sweet fellowship;
from a country church inside the city limits, where the old hymns are
sung, the Word of God preached, and baptisms are done in the creek.

I am from Fombell, Pennsylvania, United States of America:
from British immigrants, who migrated here over 125 years ago for a new life;
from loved ones, young and old, who have passed away, but not forgotten;
from sweet, iced tea and Young’s frozen custard;
from Wayne and Shirley.

I am from vitality:
from a drawer of 10K race T-shirts and a pile of running shoes;
from caving, backpacking and seeking out the road less traveled;
from birthing classes with Sonia and welcoming five children into this world.

I am from cancer:
from an invading force that humbles all who stand in its path;
from experiencing the blessings of a mighty prayer army that moved
the heart of God;
from surgery, bone grafts, and radiation treatments;
from cards, letters, phone calls, and emails from family and friends who
weren’t afraid to show their support;
from dear, departed friends who fought much tougher battles than I;
from reaching down deep inside and using my faith in God to fuel my
recovery to where, twice now, I have proclaimed five years, cancer-free.

I am from words:
crafted by emotions, inspiration, and thoughts that came together in
the form of a book;
from seeing pages come alive with anticipation to holding the finished copy;
from getting my first, second, and third endorsement from well-known people
with a much larger following than myself;
from hearing the response from an unknown reader who expressed joy in
reading what I was inspired to write.

I am from the dust of this earth and will return to it someday. And as long as God grants me breath, I will do my best to please the One who created me.

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Thank you for reading! Here’s a link to Ben’s author page on Amazon, you’re invited to take a look at his books: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Ben-Cooper/author/B07N33S7K1?ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_1&qid=1750182995&sr=1-1&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true&ccs_id=fb1ca479-8036-4009-a460-729752fca7dc

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Butterflies, Kittens, and Kickin’ Horses

I am a born optimist, looking for the good comes naturally. But it’s not all butterflies and kittens out there. Whether it’s a physical injury or an emotional one, the saddest, most painful times in our lives can be part of the extraordinary process of shaping our unique humanness. Heat, pressure, pain, grief, loneliness, and confusion all play starring roles in our lives in at least one scene.

Pay attention to the “negative” events when you’re working on your life story, whether you’re well on your way to processing them or they still don’t make sense. Our scars and damaged bits are part of the whole package. And they often make us stronger. A painful truth! For example, when a bone is broken, it knits together stronger.

One summer afternoon years ago, I was turning my horse out to pasture under the shady pecan trees in our orchard. The mare was young and high-strung, and the granddaughter of a racehorse. In her joy to run free, she kicked sideways like a karate boss and caught my forearm before I could move.  The pain as the bone broke was stunning! I’m eternally thankful that my arm was across my chest at the time. That piston kick with a thousand pounds behind it did not hit my heart. Or my head.

That bone is stronger now, but also hurts when used too hard or when the weather starts to change. Hey Grandpa, I can sympathize with you now!  The aftereffects of our injuries often stay with us.

Walking away from that accident is a reminder to me of  God’s grace.

Well, sort of, first I crawled. But—I never let go of the lead rope! My takeaway lesson is that sometimes I need to slow down a little, pay attention, and be on my toes around 1000-pound animals. Or other heavyweight problems.

Memoir Prompt:

Sit next to the injury, the sadness, or the anger. Don’t run away from it. Write about it with honesty. You’ll take a giant step toward healing and allowing the emotions and events to take their proper place in your history.

Tips:

*Try writing the story as just facts.

*Rewrite the story with all the emotions.

*Write what “should” have happened, what you’d do differently.

Then—move forward, lighter and wiser. Ready to share your story? Let’s talk about your butterflies, kittens, and kickin’ horses.

(Kicking horse photo courtesy carlos-fernando-bendfeldt via Unsplash)

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Holiday Fun With Day-in-the-Life Interviews

Have you ever thought about how a simple conversation can turn into a treasure trove of family history and cherished memories?

In a world where we’re increasingly connected digitally, it’s more important than ever to find meaningful ways to engage with our loved ones, especially during the holiday season. Imagine turning those stories into a customized, treasured book to share with family and friends. Let’s explore how a Day-in-the-Life interview can be a delightful activity for everyone involved, whether you’re gathered at home or connecting virtually.

Storytelling Power:

Storytelling isn’t just about sharing tales. It strengthens family bonds and ensures that the wisdom and insight of older generations are passed down. Think about it: when was the last time you sat down with a family member to really listen to their stories? These narratives offer younger generations a unique glimpse into the past, providing them with a sense of belonging and an understanding of their family’s journey through life.

Getting Started–Your Interview Toolkit:

Embarking on this storytelling adventure is simpler than you might think. Here’s what you’ll need:

  • A video or voice recorder: Your smartphone is perfect for this.
  • A willing relative or friend: Someone eager to share their stories.
  • Photos or items as memory prompts: These are optional but can help jog memories.
  • Paper and pencil: For jotting down notes or memorable quotes.
  • One hour: To ensure a relaxed and unhurried conversation.

Conducting the Interview:

Choose a special time in your interviewee’s life, or let them choose, and let the conversation flow from there. Here are some starter questions to get the ball rolling, especially if you’re focusing on childhood memories:

– How did your family celebrate holidays like Thanksgiving, Christmas, or Hanukah?

– Can you describe a particularly memorable holiday celebration? Maybe it was the year something went hilariously wrong!

– What was your favorite holiday food? Did you help make it? Tell the story behind the recipe and include a photo of the person who made it.

Remember, the goal is to capture detailed, vivid memories. If your interviewee is hesitant or gives short answers, ask for sensory details like colors, tastes, and smells to help them open up.

Why This Matters:

In an age where digital communication often replaces face-to-face interactions, taking the time to conduct a Day-in-the-Life interview is a powerful way to connect on a deeper level. You’re not only recording history; you’re learning to understand a loved one’s experiences and seeing the world through their eyes.

Plus, it’s a fantastic opportunity to create something tangible—a book of memories—that can be cherished and shared for generations.

So, why not start this holiday season? Whether you’re looking to bond with your family, preserve precious memories, or simply engage in a fun and meaningful activity, a Day-in-the-Life interview is a beautiful way to achieve it. You’ll be amazed at the stories that unfold and the connections that deepen as a result. And who knows? This could be the beginning of a new family tradition, one interview at a time.

Try this storygathering technique to deepen family bonds and preserve cherished memories and let me know how it went. It’s a fun holiday activity for all ages.

Connect with me on social media @rememberingthetime or reach out with your family history or memoir questions to kray@rememberingthetime.net. I’d love to hear from you!

(Photo courtesy Ekaterina Shakarova via Unsplash)

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Transform Lives by Sharing Your Story – Start Your Memoir Today

Have you ever considered the profound impact of sharing your story? It’s more than just a recount of events; it’s an exploration of the moments that have shaped you. The act of documenting and sharing your personal history doesn’t just reap benefits for you—it’s a gift that keeps on giving, touching the lives of everyone it reaches.

The Gift of Being Heard

In my journey helping individuals bring their stories to life, I’ve witnessed firsthand the transformative power of being heard. It’s a fundamental human desire, and fulfilling it can change lives. Imagine holding a book, or even a story of a few pages, that encapsulates your life, your memories, and your legacy. This tangible expression of your journey is not only a treasure for you but also a beacon for others, offering insight, inspiration, and connection.

Stories That Stick

Think back to the stories that have lingered in your heart. Perhaps it was a life-altering event or a person who reshaped your world. Maybe it was one of those beautifully ordinary days that glow in our souls for a lifetime. These narratives are not just memories; they’re milestones that have the power to influence and inspire. By sharing these experiences, you not only preserve your history but also impart wisdom and lessons that resonate with others.

Kickstart Your Memoir with a Simple Exercise

Feeling overwhelmed about where to start? Here’s a short and sweet exercise to ignite your memoir journey:

*Reflect for 5 Minutes: Choose a pivotal person or event in your life. Don’t overthink their/its significance.

*Write Your Heart Out: Spend 5 minutes jotting down everything you can remember. Let it flow without judgment. No editing.

*Detailing the Story: Return to your notes after a day or two, and spend 10 minutes adding details and depth.

*The Final Touch: After letting your story simmer in your mind, revisit it to add any final thoughts or recollections.

A Special Offer: Celebrate Your Story

In celebration of my birthday month, I’m offering you a unique opportunity. Send in your mini-memoir from this exercise, and I’ll select two stories to professionally edit and polish, free of charge. Whether it’s for you or a loved one, this is your chance to craft a beautiful snapshot of life that brings joy and connection. These snapshot mini-memoirs make unique and beautiful Christmas gifts.

Embrace the Power of Storytelling

Sharing your story is more than a walk down memory lane; it’s an act of courage and a step toward understanding. It’s about finding the extraordinary in the ordinary and recognizing the milestones that have shaped us. So, why not take the first step today? Your story is waiting to be told, and the world is waiting to hear it.

For more storytelling ideas, take a look at the following options:

*Connect with me on social media @rememberingthetime (FaceBook, Instagram, Pinterest)

*Pick up a copy of my handy guide Tell Your Life Story: 10 Tips and Techniques to Write Your Memoir on Amazon.

*Check out the Etsy shop for memoir and family history prompts, journals, games, and tools at https://rememberingthetime.etsy.com

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Bite-Sized Memoirs: Crafting Your Legacy One Moment at a Time

Embracing Small Stories

Have you ever considered the impact of sharing your life’s moments in small, digestible pieces? Often, we think our stories need to be grand, sweeping epics to be worth telling. That old phrase “Go big or go home!” has no bearing here. It’s in the everyday, ordinariness where the real magic lies. This summer, I experienced firsthand the joy and connection that comes from sharing these life snippets.

A Celebration of Words and Wilderness

I had the honor of reading my poetry at a Gila Centennial Celebration in Kingston, NM. This experience, coupled with the thrill that same week of seeing my essay and photographs grace the cover of Woods Reader’s Spring 2024 edition, reinforced a valuable lesson: stories, regardless of their length, hold immense power. My short work centered around the majestic Gila wilderness and found a home among others who cherish the natural world as deeply as I do.

The Joy of Bite-Sized Sharing

We don’t need to limit ourselves to traditional long-form narratives.  The beauty of storytelling lies in its versatility. Consider the richness that can be found in:

  • Recounting that unforgettable family dinner
  • Reflecting on the moment you met your best friend
  • Capturing your pet’s endearing quirks
  • Reliving a thrilling adventure
  • The simple pleasure of a picnic with friends or family

These brief moments are the threads that weave the tapestry of our lives. They’re deeply satisfying to recount, share, and remember.

Start Small, Dream Big

Why wait to share your story? Begin with those small, yet profoundly meaningful experiences. You’ll find that these bite-sized pieces not only bring joy to you and your listeners but can also lay the foundation for a larger narrative—a full-length memoir or a comprehensive family history.

Every Story Matters

In a world that often rushes us to move from one moment to the next, take the time to celebrate your stories and savor one bite at a time. Share the stories that make you who you are. Remember, it’s not the length of the story that counts but the impact it leaves on the heart.

What small story will you create today?

(Photo courtesy Sebastian Coman Photography via Unsplash)

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Country Roads

Writer Mary Rue shares a trip down a country road in her guest post. I love this line:

the past lives and is always part of our present.

Enjoy the journey and may you be inspired to share your own! You’ll find her bio at the end of the story. Thanks for sharing, Mary!

I just returned from a trip into my past or more accurately my Mother’s past.  A visit with cousins in Louisiana led to a trip down some back roads in Washington Parish which led to a remote Baptist church and a small cemetery and a surprise.

Mother says I’ve been to the cemetery before, but I have no recollection of that.  My great grandparents and some of their siblings and children are buried there, and I amazed my family by locating the cemetery on the internet via my iPhone and accessing a website that actually listed all of the people buried there. 

There are thousands of such cemeteries accessible to varying degrees via country roads in every county and state in North America. This particular cemetery, Sunny Hill, is maintained by the descendents of another family whose name appears on many of the headstones. The sad truth is that too many small family cemeteries are not maintained and thus likely to be overgrown and lost forever.

Does it matter if they are lost or found? 

Maybe not.  I suppose I’m interested in such things because of my love of history and dabbling in genealogy, but there was something compelling about standing in the yard between that cemetery and the small white country church that my Mother remembered attending as a child. [She says it used to be a lot bigger church back then!]

As we stood there she started talking again about the Sunny Hill community of her childhood, pointing out where the Methodist church and the general store used to be, where the school she attended was located.  She reminisced about walking to school for one year, first grade, because her Daddy wanted her to go to the school he went to when he was growing up.  Funny thing was that he made Mother’s little sister accompany her on the one mile walk, so my Aunt Pansy sat through first grade that year and then had to go the next year too.  Oh, and by the way, I’m not sure what a five year old could have done to protect a six year old had something bad happened to them on the way to school. But those were different times.

We had piled in the car to begin our trip back to the present, but the past wasn’t through with us yet.  As Mother pointed to a wooded area across the road from the church and told us, “The school was right there,” my cousin said, “I see something.  It looks like a shack.”  Sure enough, we got out of the car and peering into the woods could just make out the building, or what was left of it.  

Just as my cousin was promising to come back and explore the area later, we discovered a path that was more or less clear so we all traipsed into the woods, right up to the dilapidated two-story structure where my grandfather had gone to school and played basketball, and where my Mother had attended first grade.  

There wasn’t much left there to see, but there was a broad staircase, walls, parts of the floor and the roof, and somehow I had no trouble picturing my Mother there.  

For good or ill, the past lives and is always part of our present.  For me, it is all good.  I think John Denver said/sang it best: “Country roads take me home . . . “

(Original post 10/15/2011)

I am a Christian wife, Mother and Grandmother who has finally lived long enough to achieve a lifetime goal – retirement. I enjoy card-making and scrapbooking, reading and photography. I’ve also realized that even at my age God still has plans for my life and more than anything I want to serve Him. – Mary Rue

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